Wednesday, February 24, 2016
Rites of passage - the struggle of a dad
This may sound very strange to you, but I am struggling with an issue that is not very common these days.
My son will be turning 15 in a month, he will be going to college after this year's summer and now he has his first real girlfriend. In short my son is turning into a man. However I do not want this phase to just come and go, letting him struggle to find his place and wrestle with himself finding out who he is, whilst feeling lost and alone all the time. Been there, done that, no good.
I want to be there with him and kind of initiate him into manhood.
Now here's the problem; he and I have totally different kind of interests and I do not want us to go through things that are considered manly these days; no alcohol, sex or guns. So no getting drunk together, no whorehouses and no shooting ranges. Not even legally possible. He has absolutely no interest what's however in camping, hunting, fishing or the like and I have absolutely no interest in or knowledge of hitech, digital matters.
How do you find the right kind of passage for a young man in a culture that no longer has any such meaningful thing and had not for generations???